I think one of the most difficult parts of being a parent for me is dealing with 3 kids who have tunnel vision. They only see events and circumstances in terms of how it affects them, which is often at odds with the overall big picture for the family. Most of the time they just can't seem to grasp that the plans and decisions my husband and I make for them are not some master scheme to make their lives more difficult and less fun, but are truly part of something bigger and better for them in the long run. They complain and whine and argue more than I ever thought any children of mine ever would. Seriously, those kinds of kids were the products of bad parenting and uninvolved parents, right? Judge not...
Which brings me to my Bible reading for today. My new Bible has a reading from the Old Testament, the New Testament, Psalms and Proverbs every day, and each of the passages for today all pointed to stories of misinformed, bad judgment making, often whiny people who made bad decisions because they didn't see the bigger picture--that life is not all about them.
The Old Testament story was from the book called Numbers. It tells of a time when Moses and the Isrealites have been away from Egypt for over a year, but still not in the Promised Land that they were headed toward. God had been using this time to give very specific details and instructions about what He required from each of His people, because He knew that they had to be prepared physically, mentally, and spiritually for when they actually went to the Promised Land, otherwise they would accept and follow the customs of the people who were already there. Th0se people had their own ideas about gods and worship, which did not include the true God. God, knowing the big picture, was getting them ready. But the Isrealites, what did they do? They complained. A lot. Today the complaint was about not having meat. "Oh, Moses. We are so hungry! We never have anything good like we used to--fish, onions, melons. You know, when we had it so good and easy in Egypt (You know, when we were SLAVES!). All we have is manna, manna, manna--all day long." Even Moses got in on the complaining: "Why me, God? Why do I have to deal with these whiny people? I don't know why you have made them MY problem, God. Can't you just give them meat and be done with it?". My reading ended with God about to go off. Seriously, had Moses never heard the story of Job? Its supposed to be the oldest recorded story in the Bible, happening long before Moses was even born. Did he not know that there are times when it is best to just back off? And, for that matter, why have my kids not learned the same thing about me yet?
The next reading is one of the saddest in the whole Bible for me. Jesus has been telling His disciples for several days that He is about to be killed, but they aren't getting it. They happen to be having a meal when a lady comes in and breaks a jar of expensive perfume and pours it on Jesus. I mean, picture it: meals were definitely segregated by gender at that time, and in busts this girl (reportedly a 'bad girl' at that) who starts pouring stuff all over one of the men. There is a lot of symbolism and backstory here, but the focus is on Judas's reaction. He wasn't the only one that was angry. Several others went off on the lady, basically calling the whole thing wasteful and inappropriate. Judas took the stance that it was a waste of money and that it could have been sold and the money given to the poor. I've heard several commentators say that Judas probably really meant this, and wasn't just being goody-goody. He was the disciple in charge of the group's money, which probably meant he was the most trustworthy of the twelve, so he would be the one with the most insight as to their finances and responsibilities. He knew that the Passover was the next day and that there wasn't even any money to cover a place to have the meal together, much less the mandatory food involved. By the way, Jesus took care of that problem just a few verses later...
So, this is the breaking point for Judas. He leaves that meal and immediately goes to turn Jesus in. This latest scene is just further proof for Judas that Jesus is not who He says He is, and that He has lost His mind. When I was little, I just thought of Judas as the bad guy in this story. The older I get, though, I see this disillusioned man who truly loved Jesus and believed in His vision--up to a point. When Jesus's teaching became too impractical, he just couldn't follow through. This is the lure of and disillision of money. We can become so imprisoned to it that we lose sight of what really matters in God's economy, an economy that makes no sense in a world focused on 'stuff' instead of people and relationships. I don't think Judas was money or power hungry. I think he just didn't see the big picture, only his perception of it.
And then there is David.. King David. He decided that he didn't have enough wives and concubines to satisfy his needs when he noticed a lady named Bathsheba. The problem was that Bathsheba was already married. Well, I guess it wasn't too big of a problem for David, because he brought her over anyway, and when she came up pregnant, he just had her husband killed. David had lived a life full of God's presence and provision, and truly loved Him, but at this point had become too big for his own britches, so to speak. He had forgotten that there are boundaries that God had placed on his life, until God sent a man named Nathan to remind him. This Psalm is one of my favorites, because it shows David's brokenness about what all he has done, and his need for God to make him right again.
Create in me a clean heart, O God.
Renew a loyal spirit within me.
Do not banish me from your presence,
and don't take your Holy Spirit from me.
Restore to me the joy of your salvation,
and make me willing to obey you.
I love that last line: and make me willing to obey you. David got it. He had messed up and only God could make that right. He was restored. Moses got it. It took him a little longer and he still didn't make the wisest of decisions at times. He didn't get to see the Promised Land, but he was restored. And Judas--well, this one is tragic. He did betray Jesus, and the weight of it all caused him to kill himself. He couldn't get past what he had done, and didn't believe God enough to know that he could have been restored, too.
Three stories. Three different outcomes. All serve as reminders and examples that only God has the big picture in mind, and even when I don't understand the circumstances, He's got my back and wants what is best for me. Maybe my kids aren't the only ones with tunnel vision issues.
(taken from Numbers 11, Mark 14, and Psalm 51)